We are generally attracted to others based upon how we feel about ourselves when we're around them. Or said another way, people will be attracted to us when they feel good about themselves when they're around us. So, it's helpful to ask ourselves the question "how does (name of person) feel about herself when she's around me?" And, if in doubt, you can always ask the person in question. They'll generally be glad that you're asking. Just be prepared when you ask an honest and bold question, you may get an honest and bold answer!
Many times when you sense that someone you like is drifting away, they're not feeling good about themselves when they're around you. Common to such drifting away are complaints of feeling inferior, feeling judged, or feeling generally on edge. Sometimes its boredom, or feeling anxious, especially if you're more prone to anger.
There are some useful personality tests that can help you spot your blind spots if things aren't working out in your relationships and you don't know why. In the Chicago area, see us at www.heritageprofessional.com. Outside of the Chicago area, ask someone you trust for the name of a reputable mental health professional.
